I recently switched from a yoga class to a Tai Chi class, and this could make all the difference. This could be the one that sticks. I loved my yoga teacher, but the class didn’t stick. There were a number of reasons why it didn’t stick, such as the extra time of driving to and fro, driving after dark in winter weather, and the early evening time of day. I loved the circle of protection movements and the inspirational quotations by Cheri Huber. I loved the idea of warrior poses and I loved goddess pose and almost all the twisting and balancing poses, but downward dog was always the tipping point for me. I tried to love downward dog, but could not, not, not reach this level of comfortable flexibility. So, now I’m taking Tai Chi. This is my second attempt to learn and practice Tai Chi. I walk to this class and thus get aerobic conditioning to and fro instead of driving. It is in the morning, not evening, and I’m enjoying the fluid movements and meditative quality of the form. I’m already thinking beyond this series of classes and asking the instructor about what she offers next. I’m also inquiring among my friends about their Tai Chi instructors for times, locations, and prices. This could be the one that sticks!
Or not. I think back to classes I’ve taken that never really led to anything much. You can’t really count one piano recital as the only adult among eight-year olds as much of an accomplishment. I’ll make a list and see if it adds up to anything: What self-improvement activities have I taken up as an adult outside of academic courses ? Ballet, classical guitar, folk guitar, piano, Tai Chi (2), yoga (2), calligraphy, cooking, swimming, Beginning German, Conversational Italian, drawing with pastels, ballroom dancing, papermaking, weaving, Investing for Women and . . . I’m leaving this open ended as I may recall more. Does my one year membership in Curves count? How about my experiment with past life regression? I’m definitely not counting my years of individual and group therapy, although that was truly transformative!
My list doesn’t really add up, but I have this feeling that there are at least two ways of counting. I never became an expert at any of these, but, on the other hand, I have certainly been a willing novice all my life! Starting over with an open mind and enthusiasm, I believe, is an underrated life skill. I might be a certified expert if anyone valued a degree called “Disciple of Beginning Anew (DBA).” If we conceive of life as a straight line, things need to add up continuously, but if we view life as a series of repeating cycles, we can enjoy the continuity of some threads AND also pick up new colors along the way to weave into our beautiful patterns.
For Your Writing:
Make a list of self-improvement activities in your adult life. What does your list add up to? Remember that you can “count” the value of your experiences in a number of different ways, such as: What led to your pleasure and enjoyment? What did you take from each activity that is now part of you? What activities are in your future? Why have you chosen each activity? What are your continuing threads and the threads you picked up (and put down) along the way?
Quotation for Percolation:
“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”
Albert Einstein
Thursday, February 21, 2008
Tuesday, February 5, 2008
Writing Wellness 101: "One Question; Six Answers"
Is this a session about good writing? Or is it about writing well? Or perhaps about a career writing articles about health? No, no, and no! None of the above! This session is about the process of writing as a proactive strategy toward your improved health and wellness.
Today I want to reflect on the many times—and ways—in a given day we may be asked “How are you?” In different circumstances, and from different people, this simple question can mean many different things AND you will be motivated to respond differently. I can think of at least six different circumstances where the basic question is the same. (You may be able to think of more.) Even though the question is the same, you will respond differently each time.
1. You meet an acquaintance in the post office and she asks “How are you?”
2. Before or after a meeting, a colleague asks, “So how is everything going for you?
3. On a phone call from a parent or sibling, after five or ten minutes of catching up on recent events, your mother/father/sister/brother/aunt/cousin asks “And how are you doing?”
4. After dinner and a discussion about sharing household chores, your partner may ask, “How are you doing with all that’s going on these days?”
5. Your best friend in another city emails you about some tough times with a parent and then asks, “Now tell me what’s going on in your life!”
6. You are wide awake—again—between 2 a.m and 3 a.m. You tip-toe out to the kitchen for a cup of chamomile tea and pull out your journal. “So,” you say to yourself, “What’s going on that I can’t sleep?”
“How are you?” is a question with many meanings! We all know that sometimes it is just a simple greeting, more like a statement of “It’s good to see you!” than a real question inviting a real answer. People saying “How are you?” in the post office rarely expect an answer that describes how you are in any more detail than one or two words, “Fine,” “Not bad,” “Very well, thank you,” or “Great!” followed by a reciprocal question asking, “and how are you?” But beyond this superficial type of “How are you?” there is an opportunity in every other question for a wellness comment. And your journal is a terrific place to practice this kind of honesty about how you really, really are. At least three levels of writing wellness apply here. One is that writing honestly about emotionally difficult topics has proven to be good for your health. And the second is that this kind of writing may help you speak up (in a constructive way) about issues that are troubling you, small or large. A third benefit is that you may come up with solutions, alternatives, options, resolutions, new perspectives, and or forgiveness during your writing process, and any one of these also contributes to your overall wellness. For research summaries and bibliography on this topic, please access my website at www.metaphorical-ink.com and select the “Research on Writing” button.
For your writing:
For each “How are you?” in situations numbers two through six above write a one page answer that mentions some real and true answers to the question and real and true reasons why you are doing well or not doing well. For each situation, your wellness statements may be different because different issues will seem appropriate for discussion with a colleague, family member, friend, partner, or in the privacy of your journal. If situations two through six do not fit your lifestyle, first come up with five situations where someone might ask you a version of “How are you?” and then continue with writing a one-page answer for each.
Quotation for Percolation:
The world can only be as sane and healthy as the individuals living in it. If we want to live in a balanced environment, we must find and heal what is out of balance with ourselves.
Mahatma Gandhi
Today I want to reflect on the many times—and ways—in a given day we may be asked “How are you?” In different circumstances, and from different people, this simple question can mean many different things AND you will be motivated to respond differently. I can think of at least six different circumstances where the basic question is the same. (You may be able to think of more.) Even though the question is the same, you will respond differently each time.
1. You meet an acquaintance in the post office and she asks “How are you?”
2. Before or after a meeting, a colleague asks, “So how is everything going for you?
3. On a phone call from a parent or sibling, after five or ten minutes of catching up on recent events, your mother/father/sister/brother/aunt/cousin asks “And how are you doing?”
4. After dinner and a discussion about sharing household chores, your partner may ask, “How are you doing with all that’s going on these days?”
5. Your best friend in another city emails you about some tough times with a parent and then asks, “Now tell me what’s going on in your life!”
6. You are wide awake—again—between 2 a.m and 3 a.m. You tip-toe out to the kitchen for a cup of chamomile tea and pull out your journal. “So,” you say to yourself, “What’s going on that I can’t sleep?”
“How are you?” is a question with many meanings! We all know that sometimes it is just a simple greeting, more like a statement of “It’s good to see you!” than a real question inviting a real answer. People saying “How are you?” in the post office rarely expect an answer that describes how you are in any more detail than one or two words, “Fine,” “Not bad,” “Very well, thank you,” or “Great!” followed by a reciprocal question asking, “and how are you?” But beyond this superficial type of “How are you?” there is an opportunity in every other question for a wellness comment. And your journal is a terrific place to practice this kind of honesty about how you really, really are. At least three levels of writing wellness apply here. One is that writing honestly about emotionally difficult topics has proven to be good for your health. And the second is that this kind of writing may help you speak up (in a constructive way) about issues that are troubling you, small or large. A third benefit is that you may come up with solutions, alternatives, options, resolutions, new perspectives, and or forgiveness during your writing process, and any one of these also contributes to your overall wellness. For research summaries and bibliography on this topic, please access my website at www.metaphorical-ink.com and select the “Research on Writing” button.
For your writing:
For each “How are you?” in situations numbers two through six above write a one page answer that mentions some real and true answers to the question and real and true reasons why you are doing well or not doing well. For each situation, your wellness statements may be different because different issues will seem appropriate for discussion with a colleague, family member, friend, partner, or in the privacy of your journal. If situations two through six do not fit your lifestyle, first come up with five situations where someone might ask you a version of “How are you?” and then continue with writing a one-page answer for each.
Quotation for Percolation:
The world can only be as sane and healthy as the individuals living in it. If we want to live in a balanced environment, we must find and heal what is out of balance with ourselves.
Mahatma Gandhi
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